from ananova.com
A Bosnian couple are getting divorced after finding out they had been secretly chatting each other up online under fake names.
Sana Klaric, 27, and husband Adnan, 32, from Zenica, poured out their hearts to each other over their marriage troubles, and both felt they had found their real soul mate.
The couple met on an online chat forum while he was at work and she in an internet cafe, and started chatting under the names Sweetie and Prince of Joy.
They eventually decided to meet up – but there was no happy ending when they realised what had happened.
Now they are both filing for divorce – with each accusing the other of being unfaithful.
Sana said: “I thought I had found the love of my life. The way this Prince of Joy spoke to me, the things he wrote, the tenderness in every expression was something I had never had in my marriage.
“It was amazing, we seemed to be stuck in the same kind of miserable marriages – and how right that turned out to be.
“We arranged to meet outside a shop and both of us would be carrying a single rose so we would know the other.
“When I saw my husband there with the rose and it dawned on me what had happened I was shattered. I felt so betrayed. I was so angry.”
Adnan said: “I was so happy to have found a woman who finally understood me. Then it turned out that I hadn’t found anyone new at all.
“To be honest I still find it hard to believe that the person, Sweetie, who wrote such wonderful things to me on the internet, is actually the same woman I married and who has not said a nice word to me for years.”
That really sucks.
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34 responses to “couple divorces after online affair”
Too bad they couldn’t look past all their bad times and realize maybe they had forgotten who they married in the first place. Give each other a fresh start.
Sad story.
It sounds like the making of a romantic comedy… You Got Mail 2 or maybe a modern version of the Pina Coloda song.
It is sad though.
I was thinking exactly the same thing: You’ve Got Mail, pt. 2.
How sad that people can completely open up to one another and realize that deep down this person is truly able to understand me… but they still can’t work it out because they can’t get past themselves.
Do you think the problem is pride? Or something else altogether?
Why on earth wouldn’t they try to work things out after all of that is beyond me.
I have been hearing so much about affairs lately that this makes me so burdened for the purity of our marriages.
I had someone who I was working with the other day tell me about his divorce and what happened during the process. He then looked at me innocently and asked me, “You don’t want to get a divorce yet do you?” His question was so innocent. Nothing out of the ordinary… just a common question to him. To me, I was nearly knocked off of my feet. Partially because I so deeply love and respect my husband and partially because our mindsets were worlds apart. With an ache in my spirit for his sweet ex-wife and the pain she must have felt and the burden for the restoration of this broken place, I thought to myself… where are all the heros who fight through arguments and the mundane for the purity and fulfillment of their commitment to one another?
Wow, that is incredible! How ironic! How sad…
Jimmy Buffet eat your heart out.
wow, that really stinks. very ironic.
i think it would be cool if they stayed together and worked on the relationship with newness…like they were the people that they were online.
sad story.
that does really suck. it would seem that both had taken up identities that were not true to themselves. i think that’s why they were so grossly disappointed. to find out that the hope of something more or someone “better” was dashed away by the stark reality that the other person cannot fulfill that hope based on who they had shown themselves to be — they’re just not the person, in reality, that they’ve talked themselves up to be.
If temptation didn’t come disguised as something new and better, you might not fall for it.
that is so crazy!!! i can’t believe that they would not want to work things out after seeing that they really did have desires for each other over the internet.
” I like Pina Colada, walks in the rain….” Just like the old song, they should have jumped on the oprotunity to fall in love with each other again and REALLY get to know each other!
Get some counseling people!
Crazy.
I guess that was bound to happen somewhere eventually. Too bad it didn’t have a happy ending!
I’m sorry, but those morons sound perfect for each other!!!
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I feel like Charlie Brown when he opens his mouth wide and says, “UUUUGggghhh.” That’s how this story makes me feel. Instead of getting on the internet, try those nice words with the person you married.
This makes me sad, mostly because I can understand their disappointment. Imagine anticipating a brand new car/house/wardrobe only to find out that all you were getting is the opportunity to repair the one you had. I am just selfish and superficial enough to think that would suck. That being said, I feel sorry for these people and all they have lost and hope to heck that they don’t have children.
While this story is fairly uncommon (actual husband and wife finding each other on internet), it sure does accent how common it is that couples get bored with each other and see only faults. If we could just somehow import “Sweetie” and “Prince of Joy” into married couples, it would be quite something to see what would happen!
Turning this sad story into something positive– how about we all decide to start writing our spouses e-mails on a regular basis! There is something to be said for the written word—-and I think “time” is part of it. Time to think what you want to write, and time to read what was written.
I’m writing my husband right now! : )
Ouch…
crap.
Most definitely the problem is pride! It’s too bad they couldn’t accept the good and the bad or start all over with good since they saw bad so much!
wow. that’s all i can muster at this point between the hysterical laughing and heartbroken weeping.
What an incredible story. I printed it and am going to save it for a future message…might be able to use it at a Married Life Live event or something. There’s a lesson and a principle there that’s huge. I think every married person can relate to this story on some level.
The lesson for me? I need to be intentional about nurturing romance with my wife. I need to be open and vulernable with her. I must affirm her. I’ve gotta remember that God has given me my soul mate and I need to treat her as such. I lose sight of that waaaay too often.
Thanks for the reminder.
Yeah I’m pretty freaked by this story, but then I’m deeply convicted of all the “little” things and areas in my life where I do this. I always hope for something bigger, better, shinnier (sp?), sexier, newer, whatever. But I have everything I need and more. Help me to not forget that please!
there is a country and western song in there somehwere with a title like “love on the rocks of the internet superhighway” or something as bad.
I an just not feeling sorry for these people. Instead of speading all that time romancing another person on the web they should have spent that time in counseling. Sounds like they have the ability to love each other and just needed a way to open up those door again.
If they took the easy road and used internet dating as an escape from their lives they will do it again in their next relationship. They need to take responsibility for the issues between them and find a way to work them out and not run away from them
wow…
OK, enough sadness, there’s no way they could work it out once they discovered their real identities. They each had invested themselves in a fantasy. It may have been a real on-line conversation, but they weren’t being real, since each was presenting a portion of themselves that didn’t acknowledge who they really were -which would include their marriage vows. And if “Sweetie” had met “Prince of Joy” and they weren’t already married, I still don’t think it would have worked out. It’s hard to build a honest relationship on a foundation of lies.
wow! sobering.
I can’t believe a story can be that sad and surprising at the same time. Same people. Different contexts. Totally different interactions.
wow.
although i find it a tad odd, and ironic that they’re mad the other cheated on them..but yet they were cheating also.
maybe funny..
so sad. but i have to admit. i did laugh a little.
but sobering.
It’s so intersting…it’s like when it was exciting and forbidden they were persuing eachother…
but once the veil of illusions was lifted it was as though the excitement was gone.
how sad.
Finding something new doesn’t always help if you stay the same old you inside..
Okay, didn’t they ever hear that song? There’s a song from the 70s called “The Pina Colada Song” that is exactly that situation (only it was want-ads in the paper). And they didn’t get a divorce – they just laughed it off. But, it was only a song…
Ironic … they fell in love with each other again, and got mad that it was not with someone else.
Is this a true story?
I’m Indian and there was a movie made here, by the name,” Mithr” which means friend( it was made in English and Hindi). Same story but in the end they decided to overlook their mistakes and carry on. That’s why they say fiction is better than facts huh?