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  • I’m Your Biggest Fan (Another 25 Book Giveaway!)

    Ok, so the notion of Facebook’s “Fan Page” is kind of pretentious when it comes to a little blogger-author girl who may or may not have stayed in her pajamas all day yesterday and watched reruns of The Office.

    Not that that’s me…but I’m just sayin’…(ahem).

    Anyway, since?I don’t have a personal Facebook page, my dear friend?Crystal created a Fan Page for me on Facebook so I can post events and other updates and I would love for you to join it. I will be interacting in the comments section on the wall and posting pictures and videos, so it would be great to see you there.

    You can join my page on Facebook by clicking here!

    Thanks for reading, sharing your thoughts and lives, and for being a part of this conversation over the last four years…Here’s to a great 2010!

    PS – If you join my page on Facebook, leave a comment on THIS post and you’ll be entered to win another 25 books.?Yep, I’ll be giving away an ADDITIONAL 25 books to people who have joined the fan page! Join by 12/30 to enter and the winner will be randomly drawn!

  • The Dock & The Rescue

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    When I was younger,
    nineteen or so
    and needed to be rescued
    I stopped by the liquor store?on Green Oaks
    and bought a small bottle of vodka.

    they never carded me.

    I’d continue down the curvy road
    down to the place where people parked their boats
    and I’d hide my car, and walk down to the dock.

    Like a buoy, the dock would raise up, raise down
    with each roll of the lake from the night to the shore
    and I’d walk to the end, where I’d lay flat on my back
    in the silence and with the stars
    letting the vodka warm me
    as I continued to bob up and down
    with the lake and the dock.

    I suppose I hoped that my rescuer would find me
    and hear?the quiet screaming of my heart:
    alone! afraid! lost!
    and he would simply sit next to me
    his hand on my knee or my arm or my face
    and with his presence I’d know that
    in the end, when I’d sober up and leave
    that everything would at least be a little bit okay.

    For a couple years I did this
    even when I moved two hours away
    I found my way to the dock several times
    waiting to be rescued
    and looking to the stars for hope.

    A decade past, there are still moments
    when I want to lay on my back on the dock
    a thousand miles away
    although now, I know my rescuer is
    and was and has always been
    Yet the stars still bring me hope
    and with them I’m reminded
    I am not alone, even in times
    when the loneliness is loud

    Because we all seek out the star
    that guides us to our rescue;
    captivating us with a holy
    gravitational force.

  • Holy, Restless Anticipation

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    Holy, Restless Anticipation by Anne Jackson

    Stay right here a little while

    Stay right here my dear

    Hear me whisper to your heart

    And take away your fear

    For you soon will see

    An unlikely king

    And you soon will feel

    A flesh that will heal

    Oh, Divine, my Word on your lips

    Find refuge in a holy kiss

    Stay right here a little while

    Stay right here my dear

    Hear me whisper to your heart

    And take away your fear

  • Fear plays the Role of Antagonist in the Story of Your Life

    Just in case you didn’t download Seth’s awesomely free “What Matters Now” eBook, I thought I’d share my contribution which is an essay titled “Fear.” It’s adapted from my new book.

    Have you ever wondered who?s behind that little?voice in your head that tells you, ?you?re in this by?yourself, one person doesn?t make a difference, so?why even try??

    His name is Fear.

    Fear plays the role of antagonist?in the story of your life. You must rid yourself of
    him using all necessary means.

    We?re often impressed by those who appear to be?fearless. The people who fly to the moon. Chase?tornadoes. Enter dangerous war zones. Skydive.?Speak in front of thousands of people. Stand up to?cancer. Raise money and adopt a child that isn?t?their flesh and blood.

    So, why are we so inspired by them?

    Because deep down, we are them.

    We all share the same characteristics.

    We?re all divinely human.

    Until Fear is gone, (and realize he may never?completely leave) make the decision to be?courageous.
    The world needs your story in order to?be complete.
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  • Do You Cuss?

    I realize there are much more important issues going on in the world right now, but sometimes we all need a free pass, even if it’s just for a moment.

    A couple of people informed me that the “cussing” I did in my last post was offensive.

    (So, if you were offended, I apologize for saying the word “cuss…”)

    (Sorry, one of the side effects of this new medicine is snark…)

    (Not really, but I’m going to blame everything on side effects anyway, okay?)

    Anyway, that got me wondering…

    Do you cuss?

    You can obviously leave your comment anonymously – I won’t tell anyone…but I thought it would be an interesting weekend conversation.

  • Keep Going! (Why I Cussed at the Scale)

    I ate a lot of brownies in two years.

    Almost every week since 2003 until I ended up in the hospital completely burned out in 2005, I made brownies.

    And ate them.

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    It wasn’t just eating brownies that caused me to gain almost forty pounds – it was a culmination of poor decisions: not exercising, eating poorly, working too many hours, not sleeping enough.

    And enough was enough. After plateauing at 170-pounds (give or take) for a year, I lost forty pounds (give or take) and replaced those weekly brownies with a weekly weigh-in and weekly measurement taking.

    It may seem a little compulsive, but it’s what helps keep me on track. Week by week for almost three years I’ve been journaling my weight, and measurements of my chest, arms, waist, abs, hips, and thighs.

    When I started training a month ago, Brandon told me every four to six weeks we’d re-evaluate my fitness assessment. It’s a much more in depth assessment with more measurements, body fat percentages, weight, and how well I’m improving with my actual level of fitness.

    I posted my first?assessment?here if you want to read it.

    Now, something Brandon said when I told him I’ve been in the habit of taking weekly measurements was to not rely on my scale as a reputable source of effort.

    But every week without fail, I’d still continue weighing and measuring myself hoping to see some kind of improvement. And despite my bi-weekly butt-whooping from Brandon, and saying no (most of the time, anyway) to the peppermint mochas, the numbers on my scale barely budged.

    I was pretty disheartened…After all, I had been working SO hard…and evidently, had nothing to show for it.

    Today was my first re-assessment. Brandon pulled out the body fat pinchers and I jumped on the scale.

    One pound.

    I had lost one-freaking-cuss-cuss-cuss-freaking pound.

    body-fat

    Without saying much, Brandon measured and pinched and prodded at, as Bridget Jones would say, my jiggly parts. He typed in numbers on his computer, had me do sit ups and push ups and measured?and pinched and prodded more, and I started to feel guilty.

    He had been working so hard with me – how could I let him down?

    He began printing off my assessment and said something along the lines of “yep, this is what I thought would happen.”

    I caught a glimpse of one of the sections as it came off the printer.

    It was my body fat percentage.

    “Wait. My body fat came down from 26.3% to 22.1%? In a month? Seriously?”

    “Just wait…”

    And so we went over my assessment.

    (You can download the new one here if you’d like. It has a side-by-side comparison from when I started a month ago.)

    As you’ll see, my weight hadn’t changed much. I did only lose one pound.

    But that’s just what the scale said.

    What the scale didn’t say is that I lost a little over six pounds of fat and gained five pounds of lean weight (muscle and water and good stuff). What the scale didn’t say is that my body fat decreased 16%. Or that I lost over seven inches. Or that my aerobic fitness is now in the “fit” category instead of the “fair” category. And remember my silly attempt at push ups last time? Remember that they ended up in the “needs work” category?

    Now they jumped completely past “fair,” and?almost past “fit” into “excellent.”

    I don’t say this to brag (ok, maybe I’m having this framed and hung up in our living room just a tiny bit proud at the moment), but to tell you this:

    DON’T TRUST YOUR SCALE!

    One of the things Brandon said to me is most people will attempt working out and eating better for about a month, and they won’t see a big difference on the scale, so they give up.

    Truth be told, if you don’t see a big difference on the scale in your first month, it doesn’t mean much at all.

    My scale said, “all this effort and you’ve only lost a pound” and if I would have believed it, I would have given up.

    Don’t buy into what the scale says or doesn’t say.

    Trust the effort you are putting into getting healthy.

    And keep going!

    Not only are there changes going on in your body that you can’t see, there are changes going on in your spirit – with your discipline, your courage, and your will power.

    Keep going!

  • The Stigma of Bipolar Disorder

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    Over the course of the four years I’ve been blogging, one of the topics that usually emerges is depression and anxiety – both of which I’ve dealt with from time to time.

    You can catch up with some of those posts here.

    At first, they weren’t easy to talk about. And?especially?to bring up the use of medicine, well, many “religious” people don’t like that idea very much.

    Shouldn’t God be enough to heal you? Don’t you have enough faith? What do you have to be depressed about?

    Those are a few of the many emails (and sometimes public comments) that people have left.

    About this time last year, after fighting through a really rough season of depression, I dispelled some myths about it.

    But here’s the thing I’ve learned this year:

    I might not have clinical depression.

    You see, I’ve tried about every class of antidepressants and the one thing that is true to them all?

    They make my depression worse.

    A few months ago, I was having dinner with a psychologist/priest/friend about this dilemma. The moment I told him that antidepressants just make me worse, he replied,

    “Well, that’s because you’re probably?exhibiting?a form of Bipolar II.”

    I’m sorry – WHAT?

    Even though it’s not totally accepted, the stigma of depression and anxiety has become less and less over the last five years, thanks to people speaking out and sharing the honest truth about the diseases.

    But bipolar?

    To me – that means strap me in a white jacket with buckles and throw me in a psych ward. After hearing my friend’s informal diagnosis, I retreated back to my hotel room in denial.

    There’s no WAY I could talk about this.

    (All while writing a book about things we can’t talk about in church…hmmm.)

    It’s been about three months since my friend shared his words with me over dinner, and I’ve researched the type of Bipolar he thinks I may have. I can’t deny it – the symptoms, cycling, everything is spot on. And one of the most defining characteristics of this particular class is that – lo and behold – antidepressants make the depression worse.

    A couple weeks ago, I went to my doctor who drilled me on how I was feeling (eh), how I was sleeping (terribly) and instead of trying a new sleep medicine, went back to his original treatment of treating the underlying problem (depression). I explained to him what my psychologist friend said, and he thoughtfully agreed.

    I understand that doctors can be drug-happy sometimes, but I do trust my doctor. He prescribed me Topamax, which is typically a migraine preventative medicine. There have been several studies though that in lower doses, it actually is a really good mood stabilizer and has fewer side effects than other stabilizers.

    (The side effects it does have are hilarious – it can literally make me stupid while I’m taking it. Like, forgetting words kind of stupid. Words like “pizza” and “cat” and “computer.” As if I weren’t absent-minded enough…)

    And today, Tuesday, December 15, I’m starting treatment.

    (Deep breath)…

    I’m starting treatment for Bipolar II.

    Straight jackets and psych…wait-what’s-that-word?…oh, psych wards aside, I hope it goes well.

    Thanks for listening.

  • What Matters Now-A Free eBook from Seth Godin

    Oh, where to begin!

    sethgodinThere are so many things I adore about?Seth Godin (and I know many of you feel the same), but?one thing I love most is his ability to collaborate and communicate in quick, memorable ways. He cuts through the junk and leaves you with a thought that will leave you thinking for days (if not?months years indefinitely).

    Seth released a free (of course!) eBook today with 72 brief (about 200 words each) and meaningful snapshots from people all over the world, including one from yours truly, asking us to share a few words on?what matters now.

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    My little snippet is on page 6, and is titled?Fear. Because I think so often that fear stops us dead in our tracks.

    How do we move forward when all we hear is fear filling us up with impossibility?

    Some of my favorite contributors to this project are?Seth Godin,?Elizabeth Gilbert,?Jessica Hagy,?Jacqueline Novogratz,?Howard Mann,?Michael Hyatt,?Steven Pressfield, Megan Casey,?Merlin Mann,?Penelope Trunk,?Arianna Huffington, and?Dan Roam (and many others – these were just a handful!)

    What Matters Now is totally free, totally inspiring, and the time you spend reading through it will definitely be the best fifteen minutes of your day.

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    Just click the image below to download your copy (and share it with a friend or two or forty-seven).

    What Matters Now

    And, since we’re all about free downloads today, I thought I’d also point you in the direction of two free downloads from my first book Mad Church Disease, and a free excerpt from my forthcoming book, Permission to Speak Freely.

    Happy free reading Monday! :)

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  • Quite Possibly the Most Awkward Video Blog I’ve Ever Done

    It’s been a month since I started training with Brandon at Chadwick’s Fitness. We’ve trained twice a week now for four weeks, and next week we’ll evaluate my fitness level (and body composition…fun!) in comparison to the first time I stepped foot into the gym.

    And so, to keep my promise of updating you on how training is going, I thought I’d share a little visual proof.

    You’ll notice the video is sped up in many places. I should be clear that this is not to conserve time. Instead, it’s to speed up past every awkward position and face that I am making in quite possibly every single frame. (Note: for a good laugh, just pause it at any given moment and you will see what I’m talking about. Also…it’s a short video, but I do a little dance at the end. True story.)

    A few things I’ve learned this month:

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    1. Consistency really does pay off. I don’t think I’ve lost much weight, if any, even though I am eating and journaling every bit of food I consume – however – I’ve definitely toned up a little bit.

    2. I now understand why guys flex in front of the mirrors. Not once in my life have I ever had a cut enough arm to flex and actually see a muscle. Confession: The other night as I was changing clothes in the bathroom, I decided to give my arm a little flex. HELLO, GUN SHOW!

    3. If it gets easier, you’re not any more in shape – you’re just not trying hard enough. Brandon asked me how I felt on Tuesday after I had just finished pushing The Prowler about 120 yards. The Prowler weighs a good 75 pounds on its own, and probably had another 50 pounds or so on it. My heart rate was spiking at 180 and I felt like I was about to throw up.

    I respond to him saying that honestly, I was a little frustrated. “Why is my heart rate still getting up so high so quickly? Why do I feel like it’s not getting any easier even though I’ve been giving it 100% for four weeks?”

    He replied to me simply asking, “What’s my job when you come in?”

    “To kick my butt.”

    “Every time, right?”

    “Yep.” (Gasp, clutch chest, lean on prowler, close eyes, gasp).

    “So, it’s never going to get easier. Each time you come in, we are only making it harder.”

    I’m not used to this concept. To be honest, most things in my life have come fairly easily. They’ve taken time, but things always seem to either work out, or make sense why they don’t work out. I’m not used to having to really fight for everything. Shifting that expectation has been good for me. This is where the physical training moves from just my heart and my muscles to my spirit and my mental strength.

    4. Don’t accidentally take medicine for severe colds before you work out. You will fall asleep no matter how hard you try and push through it.

    5. It has been totally, absolutely more than worth every ache and?nauseous?feeling and even saying no to eating pizza the other night. More than worth it.

    I know a few of you had set some healthy goals earlier in the month. How are you doing? How can I pray for your journey to a healthier life?

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